When it comes to our relationship, Ray and I have learned one thing loud and clear: communication isn’t optional it’s essential.
That’s why we’ve made it a rhythm in our marriage to sit down once a week, just the two of us. No phones. No TV. No distractions. Just a real, honest check-in. Not to hash out problems but to stay connected, on purpose.
We take time to talk about us how we’re doing emotionally, spiritually, even physically. We ask each other questions like:
• How’s your heart this week?
• What’s been heavy or stressful for you?
• What’s something I did this week that helped you feel loved or seen?
• Is there anything I did (or didn’t do) that made you feel distant or dismissed?
• What’s one thing we can do together this week to move closer?
These are simple questions, but they open the door to real connection. And honestly, we’ve seen how a 30-minute intentional conversation can make a huge difference in how we love, listen, and lead together.
Because here’s the truth: so many marriages start to drift when we stop checking in. The silence, the assumptions, the distractions they slowly build walls. And we’re just not willing to live in a marriage full of quiet distance.
We’ve decided to lean in, even when it’s uncomfortable. To be present, not just roommates. To be soft with each other, even when life feels hard. We want to build a marriage that reflects Christ not just in the good moments, but in the stretching ones too.
This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being intentional. Choosing to show up. Choosing to grow. Choosing to keep God at the center and each other by our side.
So if you’ve been feeling a little disconnected, start here.
One conversation. One question. One moment of honesty.
And just keep showing up together.